Even when I don’t get to tuck my kids in.

Even when I don’t hear their voices.

Even when the system moves slowly, or not at all.

This space exists for fathers like me — men who did not walk away, who did not disappear, who continue to show up in every way we are allowed to.

Why This Exists

When access to your children is restricted, the hardest part isn’t just the silence — it’s being misunderstood.

People assume absence means indifference.

They assume silence means surrender.

They assume if you cared enough, you’d “fix it.”

This site exists to say something simple and true:

I am still a dad.

What I Do Here

Here, I document the truth — calmly, responsibly, and without attacking anyone.

I use this space to:

• Keep record of my efforts to stay involved
• Mark the days I am still waiting
• Preserve words I would say to my children if I could
• Connect with other fathers who understand this experience

This is not about blame.

It is about presence.

What This Is — and Is Not

This is:

• A record of continued commitment
• A place to speak without shouting
• A way to stay grounded while waiting

This is not:

• An attack on mothers
• A way to bypass court orders
• Legal advice or a replacement for the legal process

My children deserve peace.

So do yours.

If You’re Here Too

If you are reading this and you are also a father who hasn’t been allowed to see your children — you’re not alone, and you’re not invisible.

You don’t have to explain yourself here.

You don’t have to perform strength.

You don’t have to pretend this doesn’t hurt.

You’re still a dad.

What Comes Next

This space will grow carefully and intentionally.

Over time, it may include:

• Personal timelines and records
• Anonymous stories from other fathers
• Messages preserved for children to read one day
• Practical resources for navigating the system responsibly

Nothing here is rushed.

Nothing here is reckless.

A Note to My Kids (and Yours)

If you ever find this someday:

I never stopped being your dad.

I never stopped caring.

I never stopped trying.

Why I’m here